The Start

I have decide to dedicate this blog to my son Matthew. I miss you everyday. Your brother and I still talk about you and take your things out to look at every now and then. When I first lost Matthew I attended groups with other parents who lost their babies. The one thing that struck me hard was that there were groups, books, and help for parents who were going through it, but nothing for friends, family, and associates who are there and want to help. What do you do or say? My hope is that this page will some how help those out their who are at a loss on how to help. Hopefully I will get comments from other mothers, fathers, aunts, uncles, grandparents...ect that might shed some light on what they went through and how we all can help in the future. I feel very strongly about opening this door and trying to offer another way for those to share. Please ask ANY questions you want. I am not shy and I never mind talking about Matthew. THIS IS NOT A SITE FOR RIGHT AND WRONGS. PLEASE remember that everyone grieves and works through things in their own way. This is not so much as a place to make suggestions, but to share your experience and maybe someone might find hope that they are not alone. When I say a loss of a baby I mean miscarriages too. I don't care if you were 7 weeks pregnant or 4 months pregnant. In the group I attended I learned that people who had a miscarriage early on didn't think they should be in the same group as someone who gave birth to a baby and then loss them. All of us in the group strongly agreed that it was not so! We all feel the loss of dreams. So I will end this post and start the next one with my story.